Find a mate

We are dedicated to providing the tools and resources to help you and your mates navigate the unique challenges we face, together.

What here’s what mate’s are for

Lean on a Gate and talk to a mate have people and resources to help you, no matter what you’re dealing with. It might not feel like it, but we can help you not just survive, but thrive when things get a bit rough.

Learn how to talk to a mate

Discover a wealth of information and support materials to help you know you’re not alone and find the right solutions for your needs.

Find a mate to talk to

Reach out to our team of experienced mental health professionals who are ready to provide guidance, support, and personalised advice.

Find a mate now

If you need to talk now, text or phone  this number 1737. You'll be connected with someone who is ready to listen and help.

Some FAQs about asking for help

Firstly, know you're not alone. There are many reasons you might be feeling stuck, or not having any control about the way things are going. Here are just a few of things that you may be asking.

How do I know if I should talk to a mate about how I'm feeling?

Talk to someone you trust... be honest and reach out mental unwillingness is often unseen but once its shared is often lessened...Say something like "Hey I'm really struggling at the moment, got time for a chat?"

How do I know if what I'm experiencing is depression?

Many times you won't, but by reaching out and getting help and support from the right people the cause of your concerns can be addressed.

How do I find someone to talk to anonymously?

Text or call  1737, Need to talk? Free call or text 1737 to talk to a trained counsellor, 24 hours.
Anxiety New Zealand 0800 ANXIETY (0800 269 4389) 0800 111 757 or text 4202
I Am Hope offers a range of services, with a particular focus on young people.
Lifeline 0800 543 354
Mental Health Foundation 09 623 4812, click here to access its free resource and information service.
Rural Support Trust 0800 787 254
Samaritans 0800 726 666
Suicide Crisis Helpline 0508 828 865 (0508 TAUTOKO) Web chat, email chat or free text 5626
What's Up 0800 942 8787 (for 5 to 18-year-olds). Phone counselling available Monday-Friday, noon-11pm and weekends, 3pm-11pm. Online chat is available 3pm-10pm daily.
Yellow Brick Road 0800 732 825
Youthline 0800 376 633, free text 234, email
or find online chat and other support options here.
If it is an emergency, click here to find the number for your local crisis assessment team.
In a life-threatening situation, call 111.

How do I know when to talk to someone?

Nine times out of ten your gut will tell you. You may be feeling angry, helpless or feel like staying away from the people you usually enjoy spending time with. If you're reading this, then you will already be looking for someone who understands. If in doubt, just talk!

Is talking to a professional health advocate expensive?

Many GPs offer free services for you to talk to. We also have a list of resources where you can find help. Ringing or texting the listed services in the FAQ "How do I find someone to talk to anonymously?" offer free advice services, so go on, give them a call.

What types of help are there for someone who just needs a chat?

There are many services in your community (see FAQ above), but the best thing you can do is talk to a mate, or someone in your community that knows what it the pressures are like in your region. We guarantee they know what it's like and got through the tough times, or are getting through them, by talking to someone local as well. You're not alone, you just need to reach out, lean on a gate and talk to a mate.

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